And for the record she DOES want the marraige... she is
a. Afraid it will be the same as before b. Confused how to perform the necessary repairs
She's talking divorce but a and b is what she's feeling - fear and confusion... Her outward RESPOSNE to this is to ESCAPE into divorce high on the fantasy that her fear, confusion, and all of the other emotions rushing through her mind will suddenly dissappear when a piece of paper is signed
YOU need to stop listening to what she's SAYING ... AGAIN... and HEAR what's being communicated.
I don't want the marriage = I am miserable and scared I don't want to be married to you anymore = You hurt me and I am terrified it will happen again
Learn to HEAR what's being said dude
This is a chance to SHOW her that mutual respect can be shared between you too... HOPE is possible... This is a chance to show it
