Ok, sweetie, now you're onto something! This is where your true journey begins.
It is great to be as impartial as you can be (I know, how can you be impartial when it is so personal - but you know what I mean) when looking inside yourself and your marriage. Just make sure you acknowledge just your stuff. Let his stuff be his.
Very often, (or at least I did), the LBS takes on the whole burden of the problems. So take care not to blame yourself.
We did the best we could with the tools we had at the time.
Now we know better, so we can do better.
Give him plenty of space. Let him walk this.
Now it is your time to really figure out who you are and what you want.
I know how difficult it is to be at this point in your life and feel like you dont know yourself at all. We are so wrapped up being wife, mother, employee that we lose ourselves.
This is an opportunity to really figure it all out.
