Wii, it's funny you mention that men have a tougher time because our families are our social life. We focus everything on them. This is sooooooooooooooooo true for me but I thought I was an anomoly- a hermit, an introvert...
So it's a little validating to hear I'm not a total weirdo
One of the things DBing did for me was get me out of that "my family is my life" cycle. I actually started doing things that would be adventurous for me then such as Taekwondo, dance, going to church, and various other things. After we'd been separated my wife said she couldn't believe how well I'd adjusted, I had activities and friends. I used to put her first, she was the career woman always looking to better herself professionally and I was just the everyday go to work come home kind of guy. I loved looking after my family. Sure I had a few friends I'd had for years but my family had been my main security and interest. Anyway Romeo, you're no weirdo, I'll bet a great number of the guys on this BB are the same. We thought we were doing great, the dream was ours and then wham...right in the balls! Btw, stop trying to figure out why she did what she did, OK. It's a total waste of time and emotional energy. You'll never know, accept it and let it go...I know you won't but I had to say it! Everyone who knew my wife and I thought she had a fabulous husband, even her friends would tell her how lucky she was to have Whatis...well, big deal...now she doesn'tand who really knows or ever will know why.
