I had the same conversation with my wife. I think it helped me much more than I can put into words. Like a giant weight off my shoulders. Unfortunately, I didnt break an affair. It had been busted by someone related to the OM's wife. It happened several months before the bomb but its funny how guilt can build up in someone.
The good news is that my wife and I are still going strong. Actually better than strong. Better than before. Better than ever. So you can get through this. Make sure its what you want. Heck, you may feel that someone else deserves the Cajun more than your current wife does.
I am sure this will bring us closer together. I know my love was numb for her. I did love her, but not like I hould have.
The only thing now is the A with OM. It will always be in the back of my mind.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
