so, Red..how does this fit in with all the "detach" stuff? I'm getting so confused. Some people say to just ignore them, some say to act like their new girlfriend, some say to go on with your life like they don't exist..not sure what it is I need to do. My H has been home for 3 months after living with a family member for 4 months and still seeing the OW. Says he broke it off with OW first part of April (a week b4 he moved back home), started going thru the withdrawal process from her, then she contacted him via text end of April and they have been in contact sporadically ever since. he says he hasn't seen her as she lives in another state now. Supposedly she is dating and moving on with her life. I don't get why he continues to hang on to her then. We are civil to each other, no intimacy, just like friends or roommates. I hate it. But it is better than when he didn't live here..in most respects, anyway.
Any suggestions besides the ones you posted in the links?(which I am going to read right now).
