Ken is the post you are referring to at the end of your last reply to me? I clicked on it and it seems to be the beginning of your story. Is that what you want me to read? I sure wish I had a C that could predict what would happen like yours. As for the A being over in his mind..he's the only one that will ever know. I'm not sure I will be able to hang in there for years waiting for this to be over like some of the people I have read about here. I guess if I see the withdrawl I'll know too..but right now he's happy and smiling like all is right with the world. I'm sure it's because she is still in contact with him and he's probably waiting for her to beg him to quit his job and move down there with her. I think she's already done that and he almost went too..but he felt too guilty about abandoning me. I have to be honest..I'm not sure what he's waiting for..but he seems to be waiting for something. Probably for me to get a job so he can feel better about leaving. He's already told me that since I've lost so much weight and look like a different person, that he feels like he can leave me and I'll be ok. What kind of twisted thinking is that?