Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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I want THIS from my marriage - I am willing to stay married if this is available

a. Monogamous commitment
b. Honest internet activity
c. Respect to me when you are talking about me with your friends and family

But she doesn't WANT the marriage.

What does that have to do with what Allen is telling you?

She can tell the danged FT that she doesn't want the M, to be honest, monogamous or respect you if she wants to tell him that.