My husband's emotional affair

[justpeachy]

I actually already told him, on Monday, that I am more than willing to give him the passwords to my accounts as well. He said that wasn't necessary, that he trusted me and didn't need to check. And I told him it didn't matter because we should have nothing to hide from each other. I will be sure to reciprocate.

One of the problems he has with me is that he claims I'm "too controlling" (he says his parents and some of his friends have said the same to him). I do have some control issues, but a lot of what I think he (and his friends/parents) considered "controlling" on my part was really just me trying to set boundaries to protect our marriage (namely regarding his relationships with female friends, and his parent's excessive meddling/over-attachment). I know, logically, that demanding access to his accounts/phone isn't controlling, given the circumstances. I guess I just fear that he's going to try to spin it that way, making me out to be the bad guy. He hasn't thus far, but I think I'm waiting for that old shoe to drop.



And THANK YOU, to everyone so far for the responses. It's hard to hear some of it, but I know I need to hear it.