My husband's emotional affair

[justpeachy]

Okay. I just got off the phone with him. I told him that I needed him to take care of the transparency stuff TODAY. I had mentioned it to him again last night, while we were at home. And I guess I hoped he would take care of it on his own as a gesture that he's committed to doing the right thing.

I did look through his phone this morning, in front of him, and he didn't protest. He only asked "what are you looking for", and I just said "anything that looks suspicious".

When I just talked to him, he started to get annoyed at first, saying he "hadn't had time to do it yet". But since he has this afternoon off from work, I said I expected that it would be done today. I told him he needs to open up every method of communication he's had with her or that she could contact him at.

So... assuming this gets done, what do I do? I am not a fan of snooping. I'm thinking I'd prefer to do random checks, right in front of him. What's the best way of handling this new access, and what should I watch out for going forward?