CB = Cr*p Behavior (one of my favorite RobX expressions
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Since I have(and this is before A was known) legal document stating I am supposed to be in the apartment. I just do not want to go to jail.
Let's leave ol' Sheriff Thibodeaux out of this. Then just scratch that line until you talk to your L.
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but what about what D knows, or her friends? Do I bring them up of just worry about W and I? What about exposure to the family?
You just worry about what you have decided about how you will be treated. Let her know that if anyone asks you will just be truthful.
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How do I handle the angry behavior?
Anger is good it means she is still interested. So if you are getting flamed on just remember "Coach said this is good, Coach said this is good."
Just agree with her, "I understand this isn't working." Don't let her tell you what you think/feel/believe. "you just think......" or "you feel like...." just respond "You don't know how I feel if you want to know just ask."
You will probably hear that she can't trust you ("I understand the lack of trust"), she was ready to come back until this happened ("I can see how me knowing what I know would change your plans.") , you made her do it ("No, I don't control your actions this is your mess.") , they are just friends ("Please don't take me for a fool, we both know better."), you are running around ("No wife, I am actually very focused and another woman is the last thing I want now.") ........ all to keep you from staying focused. When in doubt say nothing or "I am thinking about what you said."
Don't get baited into a fight. Know when you are most alert and plan your talk then. You end the conversation and leave the property. If she gets crazy film her with your phone.
You stay calm, collected and confident. Check your negative emotions at the door, be loving towards her.
