That is the key word that you said about time. You are right it is a gift that God give us. The reason…well you would have to ask Him. So since it is a gift it is something that is not necessary asked for – right? It is something that you give freely of your own free will – right? Wouldn’t you want to give your H a gift…the gift of time to figure his stuff out.
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Is his behavior normal for a H going thru whatever it is he is going thru?
Yes it is pretty normal. You see he has probably already detached. Once you do a lot of this will make sense to you. In his mind OP makes him feel happy. Sorry to say you do not. He may also be trying not to hurt you. I know…I know…then your next thought is probably…”not hurt me then WTF”….in his mind he does not want to give you a false sense of hope. Believe it or not he is hurt right now but you just can’t see it. This is why we tell you to focus on you to detach. I cannot stress it enough…detach girl… don’t let him drag you into his nightmare. Is it hard? F yeah..can it be done? YES. Does it come over night? NO it is something you work on over time.
We know you feel pain…we know you hurt. All of us have. Right now it is okay to cry…get it out…cry your eyes..just never let him see it. He can’t help right now. You can though help yourself and help him. Okay…next thing going thru your head. “how the F can I help him” – simple…by giving him the gift of time and space.
You can do this – your really can.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
