Just heard back from Larry by email, and as he reminded me again, the marriage we had is dead. Over. Kaput. There is NO going back to "normal," because it doesn't exist any more. We don't have an emotional connection; we have a living arrangement.
So my mission, should I choose to accept it, is to start a new relationship with him. To treat him like a new guy at work that I'm attracted to. A little flirting, a few off-color comments - the things you do in a new relationship that make it fun and playful, casting the line to see if he'll bite. Not pursuing exactly (that's WH's job)...more like that friendly neighbor over the fence stopping to chat now instead of just waving.
Larry gave me a list of things to do, some WAY more suggestive than I'm used to, but they would definitely catch WH's attention, lol! There's lots of role playing. As I've got the role of the scullery maid mother of three down pat, I can now advance to the part of the flirtatous, mysterious MILF, whom he catches sight of on occasion, looks forward to seeing again, and eventually decides to pursue.
Actually, it sounds fun. I remember watching a Match.com ad not long ago and thinking, "What would it be like to start over and date someone new?" I think I may get to find out...with my WH! Nothing like re-kindling those love endorphines between US!
Gotta go strategize!
Red..I'm intrigued..what kinds of things are you going to do to flirt, etc. What things did Larry suggest? I'm new to forums in general so I don't know how to look up the list Larry gave you. I am pretty much in the same boat as you. I saw your user name on Tulsa Time's thread. I was interested in what he had to say too.
I think that you get better results with honey, rather than vinegar. So, instead of ignoring my H, I think I'll flirt a little and not sure what else? It's been so long since I've had a new relationship with someone, it might take me awhile to remember what to do. There was one user who I read about in the archives that mentioned she pretended like her H was her new boyfriend and said it was pretty fun. As you mentioned, our Hs and not the same people as they were and neither are we. But that's not a bad thing.
