Forgot to mention in my last post that W wants to tell the kids tomorrow night. Didn't sleep much last nigh, so I am kind of dragging today. The kids obviously know something is going on since we do things with them separately. They have asked a number of times if we are getting D, but we have been non-committal. Guess it is now time to commit. When I plan an event, I generally ask W if she wants to come along and she says no. When W plans something, the kids ask if I am coming and she says no. Maybe I need to quit inviting her? Shows more detachment?
I'm not worried anymore that the kids will think I want this, they know better than that.
I really wish we didn't have to do this. It seems to give it a bit more finality, but I know that I shouldn't be thinking that way. This is not the end. I am still only getting started.
W is planning to take the kids to the Great America amusement park the next day with a friend of hers and her kids. Hopefully they will still be able to have fun there.
W keeps planning events and spending money like she has plenty of it, but I am not going to be giving her cash for amusement. I am paying most of the bills however and I guess that is enabling.
Court date on the 13th should clear lost of things up about money issues.
Does anyone know anything about how to figure an annual variable bonus payment into CS or maintenance payments? My atty lumped it into my annual income and divided by 12 to get a monthly income and monthly CS payment. But I won't be able to pay that much each month because I get the bonus all at one, not monthly. What should I be asking/telling my atty? We should figure monthly CS on monthly income, with the variable bonus amount to equal the same % of income, but payable when I actually get it?
This one is confusing me, but that seems to be the right approach.
