Originally Posted By: eric
Stay strong Lolawar...stay strong...stop looking at the M...stop looking at him and start looking at YOU...


Yeah buddy!

Lola you set a boundary way back when that if he did not break it off with other woman you would file as adultery.

Did you not?

Boundaries are to protect you.

Not to punish.

And

They MUST be enforced.

Otherwise you are looked on as weak, no backbone, jellyfish or

A worm.

So...

Whilst this boundary served a purpose when it was laid down.

What is the purpose now?

He has made you feel hurt

Manipulated

Humiliated

Angry

Belittled

Controlled

And how is he making you feel now?

Now that he is still trying to control you and take away your....

....your


....your


.....What?

What is he trying to take away from you?

IMO nothing that you aren't giving him.

You are still giving him power to affect you and make you feel all those things up ^^^^^^^^ there.

What does Lola gain from fighting this battle?

Will you give someone the power to define YOU?

There goes Lola, she filed for D becasue her H committed adultery.

He didn't do this to YOU.

He did it to himself. WHY?

Who the F@ck knows?

Maybe the dog ate the Book of Exodus out of his Bible. (nickel I forget)

It does not define who you are.

That is the work we help with here.

So

Who IS Lola?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am