Note : In FC the object is NOT to dump how miserable you are into teh room.. Its to offer room to WORK...
You can drop your feelings into teh room and leave the lead to sift through the mess to find what they can USE to work with yoru wife, but its going to be a lot more efficient if you just hand it to him/her on a plate like I did
Your wife has to do the same... say "I am willing to stay if I can get x from my partner" etc
This FORCES her to admit there is room for improvement... If she wont acknowledge that even AFTER you offer to improve and work on the marriage then SHE looksl ike the bad guy
Counselling sessions are a bit of a game of chicken when both you and your wife are present... NO one wants to be the bad guy
