QA you just gonig in there and dropping your feelings into the room isn't going to be constructive
There are a ton of mind reading statements in what you wrote as well...
What you want to give the FT is something to WORK with so they know how to RESOLVE the conflict... If YOU go in and say
I want THIS from my marriage - I am willing to stay married if this is available
a. Monogamous commitment b. Honest internet activity c. Respect to me when you are talking about me with your friends and family
Etc, this is clear and gets to the point, and it does NOT directly accuse anyone of anything... You are being constructive...
If you say the above and your wife just plays the usual games tehn SHE looks like she's not trying...
Go iwth that.. don't say what you typed above, its way too critical and its just gonig to bait her into a fight
THe points I made above implicitly include your concerns without getting nasty or finger pointing
You can always say "I am not accusing you of anything, I am merely indicating that these are necesary for me to continue... If that cant' be forthcoming then I want out"
The statements I put are blatantly fair to ask.. If she refuses then SHE looks like the little miss pain in the ass she is right now
