Scwred up and need advice

[CPCajun]

Cajun, I think it's time you lead and lay down how your home is going to roll. You need to reclaim your house/bedroom and call her out on the CB. She keeps you off balance by telling you she needs to talk then telling you she's done - that's your speech to give.

Tell her you need to talk.

This is very specific, not up for negotiation and it works.

"Wife, I have been doing some thinking. I know I have hurt you in the past and for that I am sorry. I agree this marriage isn't working for me either. I have decided I won't share you with another man. I am moving back into the house, you will move into the garage apt. I will contact my L to get the D filed."

You have thought about this (decisive), you admit your fault, you agree with her and set her free, you call her out on the A, you reclaim your home (manly) and you give her the bomb. Now she can choose how she responds. No ultimatums, not controlling her just giving her what she wants but with you leading (attractive). She knows you know about the A, she wants you to fight for her, she will respect you for standing up to her - that's a test.

Don't reveal how you know, just say "I know all about Russ, don't kid yourself." if she tells you there is no OM. She really wants you to put your foot down and call the meeting to order. She will be angry and still test you. This isn't personal just about behavior that is unacceptable in your home. She has a choice in how she behaves and you have a choice in how you let her treat you. You can handle it.

Strength and Honor
Coach

First CB? I looked for the acronym,but am lost.

I was going to verify with L, but he is on vacation for another week. Since I have(and this is before A was known) legal document stating I am supposed to be in the apartment. I just do not want to go to jail.

As for the bust, what happen to the game plan? I can stick to the script you stated Coach, but what about what D knows, or her friends? Do I bring them up of just worry about W and I? What about exposure to the family?

I tell you now, once she gets the anger going, she most likely will not leave the house. She may call the law or her L. Is it feasible that she can sleep on the couch if she refuses to leave? How do I handle the angry behavior? I am sorry, just trying to get a plan B ready. I dont want to use my emotion and react. I want myself to be prepared so I do not fall.

Lately the loss of sleep, appetite,stress at work, etc is now catching up.

I can handle it...Or Coach should I say..I can do it.(Bobby Bouchere)