You called him on it. Now he feels dumb. He probably just transferred all his contacts over from his sim card or old phone's memory right? So, he didn't consciously choose to keep her number, just forgot to delete it. You called him on it. Now he feels dumb and probably a little guilty. So it comes off as defensive.
No biggie.
You told him how you feel. You set the boundary. And it's a perfectly legitimate one! Give him time. He'll probably sulk a while, then delete it.
You are breaking the cycles of the past. And it's not impossible that he'll treat you differently, react differently to you, just like you treat him differently and are reacting differently to him! It'll just take some retraining.
You get off the merry-go-round by choosing so. It's not even about Gabe, it's about your own circular thought processes.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
