I just need some advice about the affair... How do I know if W is telling the truth about no contact with OM and the affair is done? Now that we are separated how do I gather Intel?
As far as I know W had more of an EA than a PA (as the time they attempted the PA he couldn’t perform W said there was too much pressure as he was cheating on his W too).
The sad thing is W met OM during a business trip a few days before our anniversary last August as we were actually working on our M last year as she wanted a D last year too.
As far as exposure to the affair no one really knows besides parties involved, MC, & a friend of mine who has helped me out during this tough time. (W says she has no one to talk too about any of anything that happened. I’ve told her in the past she does, but I can’t help her anymore with that…
Just as I think I have moved on from the affair; the feelings seem to rush back sometimes. I seem to get very angry and frustrated (mainly hurt still) even blame myself even though I know it wasn’t my choice. I do want to move forward and do forgive her if she is telling the truth ( I like too.
Last week W admitted that she finally still has feelings for OM (first time she admitted that, since I first found out about the affair in Feb). Will the stupid high school feelings end soon? Will she realize that we were actually not that bad and say maybe we can do this again?
I have stated in other post she has other issues from the past she is finally dealing with as well, but W says she is taking one thing at a time and feels our M is the first, I don’t get it? I'm trying to say away (by being mysterious) as much as I can now that our S is away visiting family.
This whole situation is extremely frustrating, and I feel that we still have a long way to go and many issues to resolve before our M is all done, but that’s just me... I just need some advice and maybe some help with setting goals..
