For example I would go somewhere and ask W if she would like to join me, if she said no I would say "Why not?" or not go myself. I had to many expectations.
this is a quote from a post oin made a while back when he wanted to take the 'soft' approach to db-ing. which btw, he still has not defined what he meant by 'soft' approach.
why would you need to follow up her response with "why not?" if she says no. and what's even worse .. if she says no, he won't go either!
