However,. if he isn't doing anything and she asks him to watch the dog and he so chooses, then it is perfectly fine. Just don't go out of your way if you have other plans. And DO keep on making other plans.
That's just it, Gooch. I've followed OIN's sitch from the beginning, and there ain't no "keep on" in this. He's NEVER DONE THIS yet.
What TH and I are saying is, if he doesn't actually go HAVE other plans, and keep busy occupying himself, and he responds to her every beckon call, then he can make every speech and grand pronouncement in the book, and his wife will just keep using ACTIONS to suck him back in.
Don't BOTH his words AND his actions need to say "You're right; I agree; I think it's best we both move on"??
