Thanks for showing-up again DDay. You're right. A long time frame should be my expectation. I'm too impatient like most newcomers around here. It is what it is......
Just a quick update. I followed Puppy's advice and told W about OW2. Maybe it was a wrong move, but I didn't gloat or anything. I asked her if she had talked to OM lately and she said no. Then I said that I had talked to OMW and apparently OM has a new squeeze that he met in Las Vegas. He was at her house the other night. W said That's nice. It didn't seem to phase her at all.
Went to IC this morning and broke down while discussing the sitch. Don't feel like I got a whole lot out of it at the moment. Mostly just giving her background. Showed her W's divorce letter. Same C we both saw last week about talking to the kids.
I asked what her impressions were from our initial visit and she said this appeared to be very hard on each of us. W appears to be struggling with this too, but believes that her decision has been made and that she won't change her mind. That was particularly upsetting to me. She says this D is going to happen and I need to narrow my focus.
She asked what was most important to me now, reconciling with W, doing what is best for my kids or protecting myself in the D proceedings. Said I may get three different answers to those questions. I said I want to reconcile, but that the current strategy says protecting myself, working on my life and doing what is best for my kids are best for reconciling also.
