Not to contact David, and if he should contact me, keep it low key, no R talk and no emotional talk.
Have not initiated contact since 11/23 when I sent H an email explaining something that I believed had been a misunderstanding between us. Responded on 11/24 to the response he sent to that e-mail and responded on 11/26 to Happy Thanksgiving e-mail that he sent.
Kept responses short and light.
Not to push anything forward on the D
Have put settlement proposal letter away and not contacted attorney to begin any work on counter proposal.
Keep working on the house till I get it organized, to try to keep my mind from going nuts.
Small progress, not huge, but keep taking baby steps!
Remember to stop and deal with my emotions rather than let them out.
Have been sitting with lots of emotions. Just thinking them through, letting myself do the negative thinking, it generally runs its course and then I start with the backtalk to it. It is hard but it seems to be helping. Not posting as many of my emotions as previously either. Really trying to address them for myself.
Continue to give H space and no contact initiated by me but would like to see him initiate one contact a week, would feel that the giving him space is being noticed and he feels safe enough in my control to not go off on him if he initiates a contact. Is this a doable baby step or still too big of a goal? Any thoughts on this one?
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
