I posted just a few days back but things are continuing to get worse. I have read DR book but I just can't seem to let go.
H continues to come home 6-7am. He finishes work at 2am.
I went through his old bank statements and realized that over a year ago (last May) he was going down to the bad end of town where the presumed gambling is taking place. Originally I thought the gambling started around christmas-him going to this area of town but now I realize it has been going on for much longer.
Does it change anything? No not really just means that he has been lying for longer than I thought...or having a secret life for longer than I thought.
I told him this AM that I was leaving with our D and he said "do what you have to do". He said that he doesn't want us to leave-that he wants to support us-he bought this house for us. Actually WE bought this house for us. He refuses to acknowledge the fact that I contribute to the household.
I then said that I would like to stay but things need to change and his response is leave me the F@!!* alone. I then asked for him to leave, which again he comes back with fine then you pay the mortgage. This time instead of backing down I said fine. I told him he had 2wks and to transfer the payments over to me and that I would carry the mortgage.
I now have to follow through b/c if I don't he will think that i am just bluffing and weak. I don't know what to do. I know that I can't live like this anymore but I am so scared that if I let him go he may never come back. Nothing makes any sense anymore and I am so scared
M=42 H=51 Common-law 6yr Children: 11yr old daughter (previous marrIage) 6yr old son Bomb dropped January 2013
