Originally Posted By: TimeHeals Quote: IMO you two have done WAY more talking that necessary.
It's as if he thinks if he can find the right magic words, all will be right with the world.
I can relate to that (mis-)conception. I was the exact same way!
Puppy
Oh, I can too! I think most of can relate to it. But how long did you go through it before you realized that your problem was trying to convince your spouse to "feel" a certain way, and their problems were things they would have to work out on their own?
I struggled with the SSM aspects of this dynamic for YEARS (and still do). The affair-busting, however, and the general DBing, I picked up on very quickly once I discovered her adultery.
