I said divorce thinking that it would make things better. I dont honestly know if it would. Is running away and giving up everything I have, the answer? Will it give me what I want? Will it give me happiness if I have nothing. I wish life was easy. I wish the answers were clear. If I tried and stayed in this relationship it would be a long time before I could trust you again. And I dont know if I could ever believe that I mean the world to you. I really don't know what to do or what the answer is, that is why I haven't filed for anything or done anything yet. All I have been doing is crying and my headaches have gotten worse. It's hard for me to talk because I have been vulnerable for so long, I want to feel strong, but all I feel is lost and alone...I just dont know what to do!
This is actually GOOD news for you. See what happens when you let go and give them what they want? NOW she isn't so sure is she? SHE writes YOU a letter. You have been trying to find out what is going on in her mind for months and months and you finally let go and tell her maybe this is for the best and you aren't going to try any more because she says it isn't going to work, and LOOK what happens... SHE writes YOU a letter and starts spilling her guts. All because you finally are convincing her that you are really going to let this go. It is NOW in her hands. She isn't ready to let go yet is my guess.
She is NOT sure. You have called her out and now she is wavering.
OIN, Despite what others are telling you here, relationship talks are NOT always bad or the wrong thing to do. Especially when it is the WS that brings them up. The key is when they do bring them up that you know how to handle one. You did just fine. (finally)
NOW.. Hold the line on what you have told her. When she brings up another talk go back to your new default position..
Which is... "I now realize that you don't want to work on our relationship and nothing I can do will change it. I understand and don't blame you. I agree that maybe we should divorce and it will be for the best."
THAT is your position. She is now for the first time actually thinking the correct things. She is now wondering if it will or will not make her happy. You should have taken this position a long time ago. Stop trying and just let go and be cordial but no reaching out. Stay on this path.
