YES, CW do it!! Wow,your name change is influencing your attitude....I like it!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
CW - IMO it's OK to ask him...but I'm sure that you know not to have any expectations...so don't let it upset you if it's not "convenient" for him. I only asked once when I wanted to go away...and OW was more important than to take D
Sorry, don't mean to be negative...hopefully your H will be happy to have the kids.
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M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
If H cannot have them for some reason, I will be gracious! NO expectations!
The kids can certainly go with me...my brother and his family live there also and they can visit with their cousin...I just really want some girl time with my friend as she never minces words with me but otoh, is supportive! I don't have to worry about anything I say to her ever getting back here and if H ever comes back, she will treat him the same as she did before MLC!
My SS and Dil have their class reunions this weekend so they are busy otherwise kids could stay with them!
I laid in bed last night and was thinking of the dang dogs!!! Wonder what the chances are of getting H to take them and dog sit too! We used to dog sit for his EX and her H when they would go on trips! They paid us!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
CW, I think you should ask your H ASAP so he can't use some excuse like "sorry this is too late of notice..."
I also think that if he hestitates or has a lame excuse, it is ok to express the fact that raising the kids alone is tough work and you would really appreciate getting a break. Somewhere in there. I mean it...your H has been improving his contact with the kids lately, right?
You are always a "classy" wife, but maybe you've been feeling like a "cooped up" wife?
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Yes, he has been seeing the kids more...he still doesn't answer his phone when they call but calls them back...so much for the "call me anytime" speech he gave...
I left a message on his phone earlier, he hasn't called back yet...
I will try and feel him out when he calls back....
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
We used to dog sit for his EX and her H when they would go on trips! They paid us!