My problem is, I'm not sure what works at this point. Everything seems to remain the same no matter what happens. Maybe that means her mind really is made-up regardless of anything else.
No, your problem is you don't realize this is going to take a long time to sort it's way through, no matter the outcome. However, the more you push, get ansy and yick-yack to every Tom, Dick and Harry about it, the worse it's going to get, to say anything of 'informing' your W that OM is playing her. C'mon, a cheater being cheated by a cheater. When she finds out, ON HER OWN, or perhaps from OM's W, that oughta shed a whole new light on the wonderful world of affairs for her, wouldn't it?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11