Scwred up and need advice

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Just found W on Matchmaker.com. I knew she had to be somewhere. God this hurts.

Yeah, full on flight mode. She's looking for somebody else to make her feel good about herself. She's not very mature, IMO.
This is a "reflected" sense of self.

This is probably the crux of all of your past problems. You made her feel good about herself... until you stopped. You probably even got angry because somebody needed consistent validation from you, and truth be told... even if you had provided that, it would have become boring over time, and you'd be right where you are now so long as she NEEDS exteneral validation to feel good about herself.

Now, you can examine why YOU chose somebody who NEEDED that because it says something about YOU too.