Things have definitely cooled between WH and OW. He worked less than 2 hours on Sat, none on Sunday, and after spending part of the day with me and the kids at my sister's, about 2.5 on Monday. Yesterday he worked 10:30-8:30, which is like half a day in his world. At the height of the affair, he was gone 7 days a week, often from 6:30a-1am.
I've been doing the 180 + Larry's course for nearly 3 months, detaching, spending little time with him, etc. It's done us both a world of good. WH does a little pursuing off and on, but not a lot. He has not brought up any R talks, and he's still sleeping in the basement.
So my question is this:
Do I continue to remain distant and wait for him to come to me? Do I spend more time with him little by little? What should my next steps be?
Larry said that when he's ready, he'll come to me. But I'm trying to get a feel for how long that's gonna be, because now that I can see a light at the end of the tunnel, I want it NOW.
