Should I not go or I you saying when I am gone she looks for reasons for me to come back?
I am saying that she says "jump" and you say "how high" and then seem surprised every damn time to find yourself hovering in midair.
Did not think of it this way but you are right. I thought by doing this I would help lower the tension between us and W would be less bitter about the divorce proceedings and wanting to force me to sell the home.
PDT, It does seem every time we get together one of us two brings up a discussion about the state of our marriage whether it be the possibility of making it work or a conversation about divorce. In the past week divorce has been the topic of discussion
I did go back home. W and I agreed that at the very least we could maintain a civil R, why make matters more difficult. W and I both agreed that there was a lot of unnecessary tension between us.
W mentioned about having a talk tomorrow. W seems very confused right now and I want to play this safe. I don;t plan on bringing it up tomorrow (today) but rather let her initiate and talk. I actually plan I going out and doing something and try to be gone for most of the day as I did today.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
IMO you two have done WAY more talking that necessary.
I would take a cooling off period. Maybe if she brings up a talk, you just tell her "you know, things have been really tense between the two of us the past couple of days, how about we take a break away from it and get back to it later"
Talking gets you in trouble.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I find being gone for me with the kids to the park or anywhere has been great for me. Just getting away somewhere quiet really helps. I look for four-leaf clovers to keep my mind off things or to have a little more luck.
Whatever you can do to give yourself a little peace is a good thing. It gives some perspective on your sitch too.
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097