Husband's behavior is confusing

[pearlharbr]

Absolutely do what is best for you and the kids. Remember, if you don't value yourself then no one else will.

But now I must go back to being detached. Because I truly don't know if I would take him back at this point. His behavior has been horrific (as I'm sure all of you have experienced in your own lives).

This is key. I'm glad to see you recognize the importance of detachment and understand that the choice will be yours if H does want to come back.

Guess I won't worry about that unless it happens.

Exactly. People used to ask me what I would do if BF came back to me and I told them the same thing. There's no point in wasting time and energy thinking about all the what-ifs. Deal with the present and how to make your future bright on your own.