Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Now I just need to draw up the courage to face each day thinking about what is best for me and the kids, not what is most likely to change his mind. Quite a change from what I've been doing.
I also heard from the OW's husband this evening that his wife spent the evening sobbing to him about how sorry she is that she hurt him. Not that she wants to reconcile per se, but that she was obviously upset about her behavior. And that she knows that her friendship with my husband had been destructive to their marriage long before the physical stuff happened. So that was interesting. I didn't speak to my husband this evening so I have no idea what is going on in his mind at this time.
But now I must go back to being detached. Because I truly don't know if I would take him back at this point. His behavior has been horrific (as I'm sure all of you have experienced in your own lives). Guess I won't worry about that unless it happens.
