From a female's perspective.... you are way different at 31 than 41. You still haven't a clue who you are at 31 and at 41 you are well on your way. You're insecure and looking for approval at 31, at 41 you don't give a crap because you have already validated yourself. At 31 you want marriage, babies, the white picket fence. At 41 enough of life has passed to know there is no such thing as the fairy tale and it takes a lot of darn work on BOTH parts to make things happen.
Be careful about generalizing...I am 28. I know who I am, don't need a man to validate who I am, I know it takes two parts to work a M, and I know there is no such thing as fairy tales (although i do dream). Since 31 has also been divorced, she may have learned her lesson.
CTH - I have no problem with the age. I actually have two friends, one 23 and the other 24, they both married older divorced men, the one married a 34 year old with 4 kids and the other married a 40 year old with 2 kids. They are both happily married so age doesn't matter. What does matter is that you are ready for something and know what you want whether it is casual dating or a committed R, but don't do anything until you are ready and have had some time to heal old wounds.
Have a ton of fun with the girls!
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