MIla, sorry for a brief highjack........Hope you don't mind if I reply to C-Wife's question here. My D was final in 12/09. I'd say that my state of mind post-D was "receptive" (keeping the door open a bit) while I was working to develop a strategy to "move forward". I continued to do many of the things I did to DB, just because they were the right things to do. For example, I continued to visit former MIL in the Alzheimers unit because she was always kind to me and she didn't have many visitors. Three weeks ago I had a session with Jody (DB coach) who said that given my sitch and the fact that XH hadn't let his walls down in 22 months that I should think seriously about setting a deadline after which I would "move on". I had tentatively set October as my deadline.........with the end date now in sight, I decided to extend an invitation to XH since I had nothing to lose --- I would be fine either way. I had already moved on in many ways.....but to my surprise, XH began not only accepting my invitations but suggesting that "we should do that again". Don't know how long this will last......but I am happy to have reached the point that TrueGritter talks about in his posts: I know that I still love XH but am OK if he can't see his way back to "us" again. If you have other questions, please feel free to contact me in the alt. My name is the same in the alt with a space after the 4th letter.
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