WHY DO WE DO IT?

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I actually ask him every once in a while if he has any questions and that it is OK to talk about ANYTHING and I'll give him a straight answer.

I am honestly not sure if he just doesn't want to know or if he believed her line about sometimes people just grow apart. We actually did tell him together in the kitchen after he got home that night. he took it fairly well. Cried for a bit then was back to his old self asking what was for dinner which almost makes me believe that he is in denial. HOWEVER, he did admit to me the other day that he is very sad with himself that he is happy she moved out because she was pretty rough on him sometimes. I wasn't quite sure how to respond to that since I agree that she has been doing a LOT of yelling at the kids the past year and I have confronted her about it.

I told him that whatever he was feeling was perfectly fine since feelings just happen but to remember that she is his mother and loves him very much and that he had contributed absolutley nothing to the issues and that we would both love him forever no matter what.

Thanks for the encouragement and the perspective.