I am so sorry to hear about your wife "tossing you under the bus socially." That kind of rejection and lack of affection has got to hurt on a really deep level. Hang in there.

I really suggest Glover's book NM MR NG and working on getting a life. It is all about finding true happiness for you and not living a life defined by women who you feel you must please.

I wish you the best of luck and happiness.

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.