I know I'm still new at this... but I don't think it was that bad. You didn't look *back* at her You just simply looked at her--where she is right now.

Neither one of you is ready yet... BUT I don't think it's such a bad thing to actually take a look at your spouse.

Not to look for a sign, or for change--just to look at them.

The way we look at ourselves--with compassion and understanding.

Thats what I got from it, anyhow.

formerly known as "shelbel"
Me 40, stbxh 40
DSs 9, 7 & 3
M9, T10
Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.