WHY DO WE DO IT?

[navajo]

OK, I get that. As far as mentioning D, she already told them that is what she wants so, there's that. I just think I might wait to tell my S13 anything about the A unless he asks a direct question. My D18 however, I think has some idea as seemingly overnight, she went from being cold toward her mother for leaving and hurting me, to being quite vocally pissed off at her.

Once again, I thank you for your guidance.

I stuck with the battle plan tonight when she came over again. I told her that I needed the paperwork for the mortgage and her car loan for the bankruptcy case then went into the kitchen to make dinner for the kids. She kept coming in trying to engage me and I was polite, short answers, and calm.

She hung around for a few minutes then said, "Oh, I forgot I have to go home and do laundry." I said, OK, Bye.

She hugged the kids and kept hovering around me trying to get an opening to hug me too but I kept finding something to have in my hands and stayed busy and didn't make eye contact.

She waited a few minutes then said, "Well, bye then".

Am I doing this right?

I am pretty sure she's going to flip tomorrow night when I tell her I have opened a seperate bank account and changed my direct deposit and taken her out as my beneficiary and emergency contact while doing the paperwork for my new job.

Wish me luck!