You think MEN have any better ideas how to deal with this?

We don't...

What you CAN do until your FT gives you more guidance is be there when he wants to be connected and give him his space when he doens't... if he's offering both then work with that.. It will be good enough to survive the week..

I really don't like to give too much advice when there is a FT involved... I am contaminating their efforts when I offer my own advice...

So try to get as many questions answered as possible.. AGAIN I reccomend you go AFTER your H goes or you will make yourself anxious not knowing what your FT knows yet... it will drive you nuts... don't do that...

If you go after he does then your FT will keep you fully in the loop and you ca'nt sit there making yourself panic wondering what the FT knows from the last session that you don't yet... It will kill you...

Stop going first...