Just found out she already filed

[newmama]

Let me know when you can pick those up and I'll see if that works for me.

lol! yep, sounds good.

I would also prefer that whatever it is you want you come and get it once and not email me every other day asking for something new.

Thanks

I was tempted to advise changing the wording on this (Gardener is good at that!) but can't come up with anything. Timeheals says he doesn't get why we still walk on eggshells after a divorce...but my only hesitation is that this sounds like it is provoking an argument.

Maybe just this:

I would also prefer that you wait until you know everything that you want and send it in one email, then come and get it once

something like that?

[NoLongerHere]

Agree - you've got an annoyed undertone there - something like "I'd prefer if you would think about the complete list of what you want, and pick it up at all at once." But anyway, not a big deal. You're doing well.

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks NM. I'll reword it a bit but here's my point- she just sent me this:


do you think i can have the 2wire DSL router or at least a phone cable so I can try to connect the msft one? I don't have any connection right now from home. Can you leave a phone cord in DD's cubby for me?

when can I come by and pick up some more stuff? maybe some time you have DD and she can go to [neighbor] since I don't have anyone to watch her at my place anymore.

thanks.

[whatisis]

So I had a few tough moments today. I realized that I still miss her company, I miss her companionship, I feel lonely without her in my life. Then I started feeling upset about why she would do this when I would give her anything she could ask for. I got angry that DD has to suffer the most, maybe it's DD that I missed so much today not STBXW.

I think the trigger was me emptying the dressers etc that she wants. Just thinking back about when we got those things. Why couldn't things be that way again? I also found an old tank-top of hers and it was the last straw to force a few tears out of me. I remember when she used to wear it...those old summer days- I hadn't seen it for a while. For an instant I wanted to keep it but I know better- that'll just be torture.

Romeo, the holidays can be a tough time. I usually spend such times with my wife and family but there are times where I haven't and you do feel that aloneness. I'm sure July 4 was always a family time for you and it's just not the same anymore. You did great though BBQing with the neighbours and going for a bike ride with a friend, hats off to you! What you mention above is something pretty normal, you've been separated since March, if I recall, that's still not a long time to get over having your heart ripped out...for the second time. Hang in there, it will get better! Btw, go with the turtle, they look so cool hanging their heads out the passenger side window of your truck!

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks Geronimo!

Wii, LMAO about the turtle!

So, since we're dividing stuff up. One of the things I don't know what to do about...soon after we reconciled the first time my parents gave her a gold jewlery set. I'm not sure if I should ask for it. It's not the cost, it's just on the priciple basis.

I'm OK with her keeping all the other jewlery I got for her- funny she hasn't worn the wedding ring for over a year but wears the Bvlgari ring all the time which I got her for her b.day. I don't mind that she wears it, in fact, I like it because she likes it enough to wear it all the time. She doesn't wear a lot of jewlery.

[ImprovedRomeo]

OK, I can't turn my brain off...

I was getting a little satisfaction out of the fact that her roommate moved out and now she'll hopefully feel what lonliness is all about when you walk into an empty house or wake up alone in a quiet place. But now I'm worried that since she's all alone she's going to go out looking for company...and she'll have no problems finding someone if she chooses to. Unless of course, she already has someone which is quite likely too. And I thought I don't care anymore...apparently I still do.

So that's it. (I like Geronimo style endings lol)

[TimeHeals]

I was getting a little satisfaction out of the fact that her roommate moved out and now she'll hopefully feel what lonliness is all about when you walk into an empty house or wake up alone in a quiet place. But now I'm worried that since she's all alone she's going to go out looking for company...and she'll have no problems finding someone if she chooses to. Unless of course, she already has someone which is quite likely too. And I thought I don't care anymore...apparently I still do.

Good God, man. Stop even talking about her.

[ImprovedRomeo]

...well that settles that! Thanks TH

[whatisis]

Think about the turtle, Romeo! They live forever, they live in a tank, they go nuts whenever you enter the room and they can't leave you. What's not to love! Forget women, go green, my man.

[BobbiJo]

Thanks NM. I'll reword it a bit but here's my point- she just sent me this:


do you think i can have the 2wire DSL router or at least a phone cable so I can try to connect the msft one? I don't have any connection right now from home. Can you leave a phone cord in DD's cubby for me?

when can I come by and pick up some more stuff? maybe some time you have DD and she can go to [neighbor] since I don't have anyone to watch her at my place anymore.
thanks.

^^^^^^Well, sister, big girl pants time as Greek says. Guess she needs to find a sitter of her own and not rely on you to always be responsible for that!