Mish, my vote for what that's worth is for slow. I don't think you need to bare your soul yet or have really deep conversations unless Gabe starts them. What's more important is what you think though. I also don't think you should ever let yourself be motivated by fear; bad way to make choices and decisions, but the way I always used to be. I have zero experience with piecing, but I know I've seen in a dozen places around here, that they say if you do work on piecing, that going slow is very important. I don't see the need to rush. I do think the boundary-setting you've been doing is good. I think you've changed so much from a few years ago when I first "met" you here. You seem much stronger, confident, and happier than then.
