BM, I'm sorry that things have turned out the way that they have for you and your family. He's still suffering in the "me" mode and cannot be honest w/you about anything. He may not be honest w/you for a while. He's the happy camper just thinking about selling the home, etc., and this has been a painful journey for you.
If being friendly w/him will help you finalize everything in a "smooth manner", that's okay. Being best buds isn't in the cards right now and may not be ever. You just don't know what the future holds. Friendly doesn't mean he's your best bud. You can be friendly to a stranger looking for directions on the street or chatting w/your bank teller. You may want to look at your h as someone lost on the street or a newspaper delivery man, if that will help you distance yourself a bit more from him. True friends do not treat friends the way that they did...
I hope you are doing okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
