Sorry to hear about the papers. Each step along the D process, including getting the final papers was not easy. And even now, I still have moments where it's tough, esp. when I can't be with the kids. I can't even imagine what it's like for the WAS to go through when it's their decision.
I do think co-parenting is a good goal, but I think you and your X both need some time spent detaching, before you'll be able to successfully co-parent. I'm not saying you can't be civil & polite, but you need to get some distance first before really working on co-parenting imo.
