She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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Two more days until our first court date. That's where we discuss custody and child support. She still doesn't see this as an end all, but another step in the process.

We spoke last night and agreed to the stipulations. i told her i gave all my financial information to my attorney and he will give a number to her attorney. She claims she won't contest whatever he proposes.

She wouldn't close the door on us, but she wouldn't open it either. the one thing she did agree to is to give me money to cover half the mortgage so we don't have top sell the house (just in case we get back together). She also wants to leave all my D4 outside toys there so she can play in her neighborhood.

I told her I wasn't in a hurry in the past to have her move because I didn't want the girls to leave their house. However, I told her that after the court hearing that she needed to move si that she could experience the way that I've been living. Also, i told her that I needed to take her security blanket away from (me and my money).

We both agreed that the only way she'll be able to get her time and space was for us to make the living arangement swap and for her to see what it's like without me. She said she could possibly go to the other home and start thinking about things and want to start the process of coming back.

I really couldn't figure out what to do with the house, because I'd want to keep it if we got back together. I asked her if she was completely closing the door or not. That's when she agrred to help me pay the mortgage so we can keep it.

We went out together Saturday night, spent the 4th together, and then went boating all day yesterday. She commented that things felt like normal to her, but she isn't ready for us to live together because she doesn't want to shell up again.

I agree, we couldn't live together successfully in her current state. She needs to finish working on fixing herself. Out of knowhere she tells me I can date, but she doesn't want to know, doesn't want the kids to meet them, and for me to not have sex until the D is final.

She also said to make sure that if i date, to do it on the weekends she has the kids so that she doesn't run into me. She said she would be jeleous, but she didn't want to dictate what I do.