A Note to all Newcomers, Piecers and those Currently Suffering from the Hell that is Infidelity:
You would be wise, indeed, to do a search of Hope4Us's past posts, and study his entire volume of work. If MulesQB's is the best example I can think of of a marriage that ENDED, nevertheless, being successfully DB'd, then Hope4Us's is the best example that I've ever seen here on a successfully-RECONCILED marriage. The best mix of tough stance exposure, combined with an unrelenting patience in the face of a formerly wayward spouse's initial stubbornness and unrepentance.
Mulesqb Hope4Us
You can't go wrong to study those two guys. They truly embody "Strength and Honor" in their DBing.
All my best to you and your wife, H4U. And may I add -- with apologies to my old friend Hairdog --