New here, not sure where to start

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I am still the same person inside, no matter how I look on the outside.

So am I, It just looks like The outer 'me' decided to eat the thinner me. I dropped donw to 212 lbs on the woe is me LBS diet. Then things got good, and I got happy stupid and fat again, so this time I ma trying to kill that outter me that seems to think food is better than sex. Stupid Jack Trix are for unhelathy people.

Guys are visual. For right or wrong, it is just the way we are design flaw or brillant..ehhh I like the way I am.

Women, are not. So if you do not want to be judged visually...hook up with a woman. : )

I am glad that you believe that a married couple should pay attention to how they look...I am an absolute believer that 'change' should be for you and pretty much only for you in order for it to last. In a marriage there are often things you do for your spouse, in this case...being healthy is good for you both.

I'd like to have him end things with the OP for real, no contact.

You will not have a realtionship until he does...

That being said, that is going to be boundary, and I'm not sure your capable of one just yet.

Not being mean...

Familiar with Robin Williams?

English Police: "Stop!...or I shall say Stop again!"

If you are unable to follow through with the consequences of a boundary you lay down, then you have no strength, no...teeth, no backbone.

IF you say "THIS or THAT."

And they do THIS...and YOU cannot do THAT, your a paper tiger and a liar and they will walk all over you...so I caution putting down boundairies until you KNOW you can live with the consequence THEY choose...as it WILL affect you.