At my wit's end

[navajo]

You are ENABLING his affair.

I have to agree. I am new here and just starting down this road (OK, apparently, I have been heading down this road since last Aug, but was unaware).

Please listen to these fine people. They are very knowledgable and caring and just want what's best for you.

My heart goes out to you!

[change44]

Thank you for your concern and for your honesty. I am here to learn and am open to all comments.
There is total transparency with his phone/email/computer/whereabouts. He used to sleep with his phone — literally — and now he leaves it in the bathroom or elsewhere overnight. If he is continuing his affair he is REALLY going to some extreme lengths to carry on with it.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

That is good, AP10. I'd strongly suggest having at least ONE form of intel in your transparency plan that is UNBEKNOWNST to your husband.

"Trust -- but verify."
(Ronald Reagan)

Puppy

[change44]

Things are still going strong.....