On another note I found something pretty devastating today. I was looking through books my WAH brought home from when we were separated last year and he went to a few individual counseling sessions. There was a book he had me order for him on relationship issues, and I noticed only today that he had highlighted tons of passages in the book. Keep in mind that this all came BEFORE he even met the OW. All the passages explain his emotional disconnect and detachment and loss of romantic love for me. He had highlighted passages about how he was faking the relationship for me at his own expense, that he was starting to resent me for not letting him be his own person, yadda yadda.
What kills me about this is that it was RIGHT THERE under my nose all this time. He never asked me to look at this book or read it; he never discussed his feelings that were in there plain as day.
How do you know he didn't highlight these passages later, as a way to justify his behavior, in hopes that you would find them?
