I knew exactly what he meant when he sent you the 2 words: bug spray. And what he meant when he questioned whether Nathan had practiced ball, and what he means when he says Sydney had not had a nap. And isnt it funny how he always says something about how what you dont do makes HIM miserable? It is not about the kids, or you being a bad parent, it is about him having to deal with anything that isnt "easy" that he thinks is because of you. Selfish arrogant bastard.
Bbj, this is no time to take the high road. No need to stoop to his level either. Just play some hard ball, mean it and put him in his place. You are a great mom and he is the last person to criticise you. No need to apologise, explain etc etc ever again. I do believe that you need to be tough now. K
K that is exactly it! I have had it with being Miss Nice and trying to be loving through this. I am so fed up with his bullsh!t. My counselor pegged it, he cannot look at himself, face his own shortcomings so he shifts blame for anything/everything on me.
I used to answer his texts and try to defend or justify myself. I don't do that anymore because that gives him some kind of satisfaction that he 'got' me.
The past week or two I have stopped responding to his texts trying to push my buttons. I just ignore them. However it is sometimes hard to just let it go when he does this stuff. Like this morning not telling me he was having his dad come and hang out with the kids until they got up and around. Had I known I would have taken the time to exercise, maybe run an errand, etc. However I was kind of in "wait" mode from 7-9 not knowing what was going on. And then after that I didn't want to go anywhere because I was not sure just when FIL may come and bring them back to me...
Also MIL already called last night and mentioned something about taking the kids to a children's museum tomorrow bc SIL is going to be in town. Well Wednesday night is Dan's but Wednesday 'day' is mine. I would let them go normally, I want them to have time to go and see their cousins. However Dan has them Weds night through Sunday so there are plenty of opportunities. And I already let him have them during 'my' weekend this past weekend to celebrate the 4th from late Saturday night until 3:00 on Sunday...
It is more that MIL just assumes she is going to have them. Nathan told me this morning that they went to the farm (FIL/MIL) last night and grandma said they were all going to the museum tomorrow. I doubt Dan will even approach me he will let MIL call in the morning and ask when she can pick them up...which goes against what he said at Easter when he claims he told her never to schedule things through me again, to always go through him...
I want to be tough I just need to find a fine line because I really feel disgusted to the point of not acknowledging his existence, which won't work, or ripping him a new @sshole, calling in the big dogs (tipping off his work about his cell phone and laptop), which that anger won't help me either...
